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Dear Angelo,

Your book Straight Acting doesn't seem to leave much room for the argument that gay men could be masculine without it being an act. I mean isn't it just as possible that gay men are masculine by nature and that we learn to imitate effeminate gay stereotypes?

You ("The Gay Man's Therapist") seem to be prejudice against gay guys who are masculine in a positive way. And you also seem to contradict yourself at times like when you say, "sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation are separate," and "having same-sex fantasies doesn’t mean you’re gay." But you also say about some curious straight guys, "doesn't their lust for other men make them gay—even it if it’s just a little?" I'm not sure your arguments are cohesive or consistent.

Signed, Gay And Masculine

See Angelo’s answer @ Straight Acting, Gay Wired, CA. Buy Straight Acting: Gay Men, Masculinity and Finding True Love.